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There is no universally recognized definition for the word “emotion.” This may be hard to believe since the word is so commonly used to describe a feeling. Psychiatry, psychology, social work, and the multi-billion dollar mental health industry are built around concepts related to the emotions and emotional behavior. There is much controversy among the experts concerning how emotions are defined and classified, and many different disciplines have done research on the emotions. These include: anthropology, archaeology, criminology, economics, education, ethology, geography, history, law, linguistics, literature, neuroscience, philosophy, psychiatry, psychology, political science, theology, and sociology. What is an emotion? It all depends on whom you are talking.
All we can ever really grab onto is a general definition of emotion – a capricious, elusive, and sensitive mental and physiological state associated with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. That’s it!
With all of this research and all of these experts, some of the questions that have yet to be answered definitively in relation to the emotions are:
- Can an individual experience emotion without there being some corresponding behavior?
- If an individual is able to experience emotions without there being some corresponding behavior, would that indicate that this behavior is not essential to the emotion?
In life, one doesn’t need an all-defining word to recognize that everyday human beings experience love and hate, and an entire array of feelings, passions, and sensibilities that reflect, or are classified as emotions. To prosper in life you must have an effective strategy for expressing these feelings, passions and sensibilities. Our ability to be in touch with and express our emotions has a large part to play in the types of choices we will make in the game of life.
The exploration of what I call emotional games is important because, in traditional mathematical game theory, it is logic, the rational mind and the scientific method that define what goes into the “playbook.” One soon learns that applying game theory in this way to ordinary life is not particularly effective. Current research indicates, that humans are motivated to subconsciously initiate, continue, or terminate bodily movements or internal chemistry in ways that may be contrary to what may seem rational or logical.
Mathematical Game theory is concerned with how people respond to one stimulus or another, and how we define these responses. What is hard to measure is the hundreds of factors that influence these responses. A traditional mathematical approach to game theory would require that one measure the influence of culture, age, gender, upbringing, early and later life traumas, religious belief, national origin, the physical environment, and the time frame in which a feeling is expressed. For instance, we might define the same emotion differently if it happens for just a few seconds (e.g. confusion), where others can last years (confusion and terror). Then there are the general and multifaceted ways in which we create and respond to the world. We process important information and respond through conscious and unconscious actions, feelings, bodily reactions, and behaviors. Some individuals may have personalities that are reflective of certain character traits. For example, a loving person will feel and express love more quickly or easily than he or she might express fear or sadness.
All this presents a dilemma: If we cannot create a definitive description for the word “emotion” how can one create a life game, a system for integrating the influence of emotions into the game?
My response to this challenge is to create my own game rulebook concerning “emotion.” I have isolated four emotional states that I called the “core emotion.” These are love, sadness, fear, and joy. The level of success that I have in my self-created life game is greatly dependent on how I respond to one or another of these core feelings. I was going to add sympathy and hate to these emotions, but through the process of self-assessment, I came to the conclusion that sympathy is an expression of sadness, hate is actually an expression of fear and love is an expression of joy.
As I explored the concept of emotional games, I saw that in sports, war, and politics, it was common for a competitor to win a game by forcing an opponent to act emotionally at a time when doing so was against the latter’s best interest. Obviously, you can’t go through life being mad or sad and expect to be effective. In the game of life, it is important to develop strategies for addressing your emotional needs. These are needs that can’t be ignored without consequences.
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